Tuesday, September 2, 2014

a little get away...

We love heading South for a mini get-away.  We do this a few times a year.  It allows me to visit with my girlfriend (friends since middle school) and for Max to spread his wings and play with some older kids who have bikes, trampolines, drum sets, and tons of space.  The whole trip he told me he was a big kid now.  It was pretty sweet!  

The girls are super into soccer so Max got to see the girls in action.  I may be signing him up for lil kicker soon.  It held his interest so we will see...maybe I have a Seattle Sounder on my hands.









Monday, September 1, 2014

SAHM-Rock it!

I have been a stay at home mom since Max was born.  We had decided early on that this was the plan.    It was an easy decision and by my ninth month of pregnancy not only was I counting down the days till Max's arrival, but I was counting down my last days in the office.  I had senior-itis big time.

I never really understood the conflict with the SAHM and working mom.  The common denominator is mom. That is who we are and what we do.  I believe both scenarios deserve mass props.  I don't believe one is easier than the other.  And I feel as woman, we owe it to one another to support each other.  It's hard enough as it is parenting.  We don't need the extra bullshit.

With that said, I am not going to say I never get that insecure feeling when someone asks me "what I do".  I am working on that.  Progress not perfection!

My job is important and fantastic!  Anyways, I came across this article an liked it hope you enjoy!

This is for the SAHM's out there and how to rock that job!

7 WAYS TO ROCK BEING A STAY AT HOME MOM

Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job that I’ve ever done. Click here for article 
I’m the boss, lunch lady, custodian, teacher, and play mate.  I wash dishes while singing to my kids, make upgames for us when we’re stuck inside, and try to get both of my kids to play together (nicely).  There are so many hats that I wear as a stay at home mom, but there are a few things that make the job easier.
7 ways to rock at being a stay at home mom

1.) GO ON…SAY IT: I ROCK AT BEING A MOM!

Was it hard to say?  I think it’s so important to remind ourselves every day that we rock as a mom. Write it on a mirror, tuck a note in your wallet, or say it out loud!  The more we say it, the more it becomes a part of who we are.

2.) DEFINE YOUR EXPECTATIONS AS A STAY AT HOME MOM

Have you ever sat down and talked with your partner about your expectations as a stay-at-home Mom?  There are so many stigmas about what a stay-at-mom is or isn’t, but YOUR expectations are what matter most.  Figure out what a stay-at-home mom means for your family because it looks different for each and every family.

3.) STOP COMPARING TO OTHER MOMS

This is a shout out to all moms: don’t compare yourself with other moms.  Look, your parenting, your choices, and your kids are completely different from the Mom next to you.  Cut out the comparisons and we’ll all be happier moms!

4.)  FIND BALANCE

If you’re like me, then being super social with other moms might not be your strength.  Or, you might LOVE being social all day long.  We’ve found that staying super social in the mornings (for my daughter) and relaxed in the afternoons (for me) keeps us both happy all week long.  Striking that balance will help keep each of you filled up and relaxed.

5.) BE YOUR BIGGEST FAN

This is the case in any job – I know – but, the thing about being a stay at home Mom is that you don’t have a lot of feedback.  There’s no boss giving you employee of the month and no co-workers saying, “you rock!”  Instead, you have to believe in yourself and the choices you make all day long.  Remind yourself often that you are amazing.  You are doing the best you can.  You are a great mom.

6.)  FIND A COMMUNITY

Tap into a community of people for you and for your kids.  Dance class and art class have been a wonderful way for us to form a community.  Neighbors have provided that for us as well.  But, the hardest part of being a stay-at-home mom is that you can get isolated.  No one wins when you’re isolated.  Contact your local community college, parks and recreation, or any place in your area that can connect you with classes or a community.

7.)  FIGURE OUT A ROUTINE

There is a level of flexibility that we have by being stay-at-home moms that can work against us.  You wake up, don’t get dressed, and suddenly your stare at the clock and it’s mid-afternoon.  Doing that consistently will throw you and the kids off, so be sure to build in a flow or routine that happens every single day while your home – especially if you have little ones in the house who thrive on routines.
Perhaps most importantly, remember that you matter.
Remember your passions outside of your kids.  Remember what got you excited before you had kids.  Remember to nurture all parts of yourself so that you truly can ROCK at being a healthy, happy mom!
Join the community on our Facebook page and tell us how you are rocking it as a stay at home mom :)

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Katie JoinerKatie Joiner is a happy-at-home Mom. She's got an almost 4 year-old and "oh-so close" to 1 year-old. When she's not busy saving her cats from the kids and trying to figure out what's for dinner, she can be found admiring, dreaming, and playing the day away with her family. Come over and say hi on her FB page@Happilyevermom, or Google +.






Thursday, August 28, 2014

Currently {Link Up}

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I am currently needing to find some mojo. Some self care, some inspiration.  Do you ever see people around you that seem so inspired by life, or doing things with their life that seem important? I see myself as, (I read this some where)  "lead butt wiper".  That's me. That is what I do.  I could class it up a bit to "Champion Butt Wiper", or Supreme B.W."  But lets be clear.  It is what it is.   Now if you read this blog you must know I am a bit self deprecating.  In the fun way of course.   And I do realize the huge importance that butt wiping offers.  I mean who wants an itchy, smelly bum?  But I guess lately I sort of, well want a comma after LBW.  You know, like philanthropist, artist or LEADER. heh. You feel me?

Child rearing is important.  I get that.  And I know that no job I will do will be greater.  I am not trying to minimize the greatness of us mamas.  But alone at night, while I scroll Pinterest, I have the want for little more.  
Who knows what that will entail. But the fire is lit.  Ok so maybe not completely lit.  But there is definitely smoke.  Small puffs of smoke.

Wow, that was a rant.  Geesh.  So I am missing-clearly my sanity. lol.  But seriously, I am missing my hubby.  He is back in California and has been there for 12 days.  Too long.  Being a single mom is not joke.  Max totally misses him too.  Family is best reunited.

I am reading Letters to my Daughter. By Maya Angelou.  Very good.  Short stories.  Poignant and thought provoking.  And I like that the stories are small.  I can read a few a night and be done.  

I am hoping that I find a little clarity.  I feel I have been doing a little soul searching.  Wondering if people change or do I?  Do I wait for something to happen, or do I make it happen.  Max I think is hoping for more toys. Race cars in particular.

I have been playing a LOT in Max's room.  After he turned three he has shifted a bit.  He cries when I leave him at school or with a sitter.  He always wants me at his heels to see what he is doing or watching.  My little independent monster now needs his mama more.  Not sure why, but I hear it is pretty common for little boys.  I've been playing with my camera more, and even took a small one on one class.  Was very cool.





Little Gym

Mama Fail.  Yes the ice cream is in the fridge. Oops.


Monday, August 25, 2014

Babies babies babies...

Sweet Audrey had her debut this weekend.  A special party was thrown for her and her mama.  A Sip and See.  Have you heard of that before?  I hadn't, but what a fantastic idea.  So instead of a baby shower some more prefer a Sip and See. Where cocktails can be consumed and the baby can be fawned over.  I think this is more common with a second baby, but I can see a lot of first time mamas opting for this too.

Us ladies laughed, had wonderful Prosecco and tasty treats.  The weather was fantastic and all was well in the world.

With all these lovely babies and bellies around me, some have asked if it has been hard for me.  And I can say thankfully it hasn't been too bad.  The hubby and I have been trying with all our might ;) to have another baby (9 months now) and it just hasn't happened.  But I haven't lost faith, and actually seeing these mamas and babies just strengthens it.  Since it hasn't been a year yet of trying some have said not to worry.  Easier said then done.  9 months feels like forever.  I have started going to acupuncture-you know to help, somehow.  But with every cycle that comes I am a little defeated.  But to combat that defeat, I stuff my face with delicious white carbs and sugar.  Silver lining right.

But I can't be more thrilled for my ladies who have all this joy in their life.  Motherhood is so wonderful and should always be celebrated with a wonderful party!

Yes I used this at another shower, don't judge lol 






big kids made an appearance later in the party, just in
time for dessert!

Why I love my neighborhood...#345

Seriously, this neighborhood keeps getting better and better.  We have lived here now for 8 years.   During that time this area has transformed.  Historians called Pioneer Square the Skid Row of Seattle.  Where poor choices were made, and debauchery was encouraged.  Pioneer Square held this reputation for a long time.  I can recall many a story of myself as a young 21 or 31 year old making those same bad decisions.  But in the last few years we have seem more condos being built and old smelly bars (I used to frequent) being "refurbished".  

And then this little gem popped up.  Our own fancy neighborhood market.  Filled with hipster trinkets, good cheese and wine.   This is how I know Pioneer has really turned a corner.  The other only store is called Saveway, which we loving call "crackmart".  It is the type of establishment that sells chicken wings, by the wing.  A great store in a pinch, but you never knew what you would run up against.  So this place is a super nice change.  So clean, and fancy.
However, as happy as I am with all the change, crackmart will always hold a special place in my heart, but perhaps just in the daylight.








Thursday, August 14, 2014

Currently {link up}


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THEME:
searching, wearing, needing, moving, eating 


I am currently searching for a rock to climb under.  A tad bit dramatic I realize but it was the first thing I thought of.  Max is super challenging right now.  The battles are constant and about everything.  He loves to express what he DOES NOT WANT.  Or what he doesn't want me to say, sing, cook, move, what have you.  The attitude on this child is big.  At first, when I could tell that this new found resistance wasn't going to leave, we would just fight.  Yelling back and forth.  Then I tried being a grown up.  I realized he wasn't going to change or grow up any time soon so it was up to me to do the changing.  Which is hard for me.  Or I suppose any 37 year old woman.  Now when he freaks, I  try and keep calm.  Tell him I don't like the way he is talking to me and walk away.  Slowly unclenching my teeth.  I am certain Max is searching for ways to kill his mama.


Max loves being nekked.  And for the most part I let him.  The hubby isn't a real fan, as Max likes to seat bare bottom on all the furniture, lol.  I am wearing what ever conceals me the best.


I am needing a mental break.  I was trying to explain this to someone recently.  It is not the break a few hours can give or a night away.  Its a break from planning, stressing, organizing, worrying and life.  You know, the stuff you can never get a break from, and deep down inside, would hate if you did. Max is needing to watch YouTube all the time.  What is it about that? Max is obsessed with watching others play with hot wheels.  And how weird is it that people video themselves playing with them or their collections?  I mean these men are old!


Max is moving a mile a minute, except for the 5 minute spurts when is glued to the ipad watching old men play with their hot wheel collection. I am not moving fast enough. I may be a tad bit depressed or something.  My energy is so low and my anxiety is too high.


Max is so picky these days and it is also a fight trying to find an "acceptable meal? I may be exaggerating a smidgen, but I feel it keeps up with the general tone of this post lol.  I am trying to eat healthier, but it is hard with such tasty food in this city.  Its every where.  Yummy restaurants every where you turn.  And lately Max is all about wanting to go to a restaurant I(for french fries).  And a hotel.  Spoiled?  Perhaps, lol.




Forcing Emo (auntie) to watch Youtube



Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Camano Beach

Last weekend we decided to get outta town. You know sometimes you just get that itch.  It's been gorgeous in Seattle, so we knew we had limitless possibilities.  And we didn't want to go too far.

 My girlfriend is getting married in Camano Island next year so we decided to give it a look see.  I've heard so many good things about it and Camano Island is only about 90 minutes away.

Perfect!

Our first beach was littered with rocks and barnacles,
Max loved it.



Then we headed to Iverson spit which was more sandy
and perfect for us to lay out and relax.


Max found a log to ride