Wednesday, September 17, 2014

three little tests...

You know what isn't 'fun?  A poke in the eye.  Yeah, that isn't really fun. Food sickness?  Equally not as fun.  But I have another one....talking to your Doctor about infertility.  Ugh.  That dreaded horrid word.  Typing it makes my stomach knot up.  And that my friends, IS NOT FUN.

Sitting there with my doctor whom I respect, but doesn't really have that bed side manner you're looking for gave it to me straight.  No chaser.  And it burned going down.  Time for testing.

Our "story"? Not unusual.  Late 30's couple who has a wonderful spirited three year old.  Healthy, non-smokers, pseudo exercise enthusiast, heavy cream-baked good lovers looking to expand their ever so lovely family for a second time. 10 months later-no dice.  And it is in the water people.  Everyone and their mother is pregnant right now, and trust me I am drinking their water.  But yet, no luck.  I've try visualization, realization, mediation and relaxation.  I've tried accupuncture, belly laughs with girlfriends, psychics and "not thinking" about it too much.  Do not scare the ovary!!!  So I think you can say, I've tried.

So "d" day came. Along with the list of questions from the expert.  As she listed the tests I would need to take to get a look see into what was going on I felt a pang of guilt.  I don't need to do this, I thought.  We are fine. I am fine.  Don't get greedy.  You are blessed with a lot already.  Of course I pushed that aside.  But it was there, along with a ton of other icky feelings.  Embarasslingly, I had to ask my doctor to repeat herself multiple times.  It just wasn't sinking in.  She did however graciously tell me she was printing it out for me.  So sweet of her.

So now.  Now I wait.  I schedule my first round of tests in about two weeks.  Just so we can make sure I am not currently pregnant.  Wouldn't that be fantastic! How I would love that little surprise.  But, I am prepared for October.  For when I get some answers, even if they aren't what I want to hear.

I am not making anymore decisions expect to go forward with these three tests.  My brain can't handle anything more.  No what if's, or how far.  Just these three tests.

Wish me luck....



Monday, September 15, 2014

till we meet again summer....

Summer is offically starting to fade, and like most summers I look at back to see what adventures we had.

We arrived back in Seattle around the first of July where we celebrated Max's Third Birthday.  Birthday parties are always a good time and this time we ventured out and had it some where rather than a house.  Two thumbs up for that brillant idea.  No planning or clean up for this mama, and I was even able to enjoy a beer while the kids ran a muck.  Perfection!

Then, it was time to see my sister off.  She moved back to Anchorage after spending four years in Seattle.  It was so great having her so close and it was sad to see her go.  But upward and onward, right.  She is having a blast back in AK.  And I couldn't be happier for her.

Rob and I celebrated our 9 year wedding anniversary.  A lot of reminisincing and talking about the future.  How we got to this place and how lucky we truly are.

Sweet Audrey made her entrance this month too.  Love me some babies.

Our dear friends from California came to visit us as well.  Max and Gracie's are two peas.

In August we attended two baby showers that I got to host and co-host.  That was awesome! I love the excitement surround new babies.  New life, and new chapters.

My older sister came in for a whirlwind day visit.  It was great for Max and I to have her all to ourselves.

We did a day trip to Camamo Island, which was a first and was lovely.

Hit up Alki beach, A lot!  Traveled to Vancouver WA to visit some friends 

And the hubby and I had some lovely date nights scattered through the months.


I am always shocked at how fast it all goes.  
And now we welcome fall, my favorite time of year.  Crisp, sunny days, hot coffee and long walks.  

See you next year Summer!










Sunday, September 7, 2014

12th man!

The 12th man or 12th player is a term for the fans within a stadium during American football and association football games. As most football leagues allow a maximum of eleven players per team on the playing field at a time, referring to a team's fans as the 12th man implies that they have a potentially helpful role in the game. Infrequently, the term has referred to individuals having a notable connection to their football team. 
The presence of fans can have a profound impact on how the teams perform, an element in the home advantage. Namely, the home team fans would like to see their team win the game. Thus these fans will often create loud sounds or chant in hopes of distracting, demoralizing and confusing the opposing team while they have possession of the ball; or to persuade a referee to make a favorable decision. Noises are made by shouting, whistling, stomping and various other techniques. 
~WIKIPEDIA
Just a little bit of education for you.  The 12th man is loud and proud in Seattle.  I can't even being to count the number of flags around the city.  It's a pretty cool sight.  Another braggin' right..... Seattle's 12th man has been know to break records at the stadium. We are loudest in the NFL.  Fan here take this shiz seriously, and I LOVE IT!  Being from Alaska, we never had a team to cheer for or to call our own.  So moving to a city that did was exciting.  I am not the hugest sport fan/attic, but my blood does getting pumping when I see a great play.  Or the game is too close to call and we are down to the last final play with 12 seconds on the clock.  A lot can happen in those last few seconds I've come to find out.
 Opening day was last Thursday and I wanted to take my camera out and try and capture some of the action.  This was more difficult than I had imagined.  First, there were about 100,000 fans outside my door, and with a small toddler, it made moving around difficult.  And once I did become mobile I was stopped by security because my camera bag was too big.  I hadn't realized they could patrol outside the stadium like that.  They weren't messing around.
But the fans did not disappoint.  They came out all deck out in Green and Blue and even a donkey or pony or something made the trek.  I taught Max to scream "SEA-Hawks", and it made me proud overtime he did.  

Now if we can only get daddy on board.

How cute is he!
"Wilson" 

finding common ground









packed 
Gotta recycle.  Keep it green people!

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

a little get away...

We love heading South for a mini get-away.  We do this a few times a year.  It allows me to visit with my girlfriend (friends since middle school) and for Max to spread his wings and play with some older kids who have bikes, trampolines, drum sets, and tons of space.  The whole trip he told me he was a big kid now.  It was pretty sweet!  

The girls are super into soccer so Max got to see the girls in action.  I may be signing him up for lil kicker soon.  It held his interest so we will see...maybe I have a Seattle Sounder on my hands.









Monday, September 1, 2014

SAHM-Rock it!

I have been a stay at home mom since Max was born.  We had decided early on that this was the plan.    It was an easy decision and by my ninth month of pregnancy not only was I counting down the days till Max's arrival, but I was counting down my last days in the office.  I had senior-itis big time.

I never really understood the conflict with the SAHM and working mom.  The common denominator is mom. That is who we are and what we do.  I believe both scenarios deserve mass props.  I don't believe one is easier than the other.  And I feel as woman, we owe it to one another to support each other.  It's hard enough as it is parenting.  We don't need the extra bullshit.

With that said, I am not going to say I never get that insecure feeling when someone asks me "what I do".  I am working on that.  Progress not perfection!

My job is important and fantastic!  Anyways, I came across this article an liked it hope you enjoy!

This is for the SAHM's out there and how to rock that job!

7 WAYS TO ROCK BEING A STAY AT HOME MOM

Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job that I’ve ever done. Click here for article 
I’m the boss, lunch lady, custodian, teacher, and play mate.  I wash dishes while singing to my kids, make upgames for us when we’re stuck inside, and try to get both of my kids to play together (nicely).  There are so many hats that I wear as a stay at home mom, but there are a few things that make the job easier.
7 ways to rock at being a stay at home mom

1.) GO ON…SAY IT: I ROCK AT BEING A MOM!

Was it hard to say?  I think it’s so important to remind ourselves every day that we rock as a mom. Write it on a mirror, tuck a note in your wallet, or say it out loud!  The more we say it, the more it becomes a part of who we are.

2.) DEFINE YOUR EXPECTATIONS AS A STAY AT HOME MOM

Have you ever sat down and talked with your partner about your expectations as a stay-at-home Mom?  There are so many stigmas about what a stay-at-mom is or isn’t, but YOUR expectations are what matter most.  Figure out what a stay-at-home mom means for your family because it looks different for each and every family.

3.) STOP COMPARING TO OTHER MOMS

This is a shout out to all moms: don’t compare yourself with other moms.  Look, your parenting, your choices, and your kids are completely different from the Mom next to you.  Cut out the comparisons and we’ll all be happier moms!

4.)  FIND BALANCE

If you’re like me, then being super social with other moms might not be your strength.  Or, you might LOVE being social all day long.  We’ve found that staying super social in the mornings (for my daughter) and relaxed in the afternoons (for me) keeps us both happy all week long.  Striking that balance will help keep each of you filled up and relaxed.

5.) BE YOUR BIGGEST FAN

This is the case in any job – I know – but, the thing about being a stay at home Mom is that you don’t have a lot of feedback.  There’s no boss giving you employee of the month and no co-workers saying, “you rock!”  Instead, you have to believe in yourself and the choices you make all day long.  Remind yourself often that you are amazing.  You are doing the best you can.  You are a great mom.

6.)  FIND A COMMUNITY

Tap into a community of people for you and for your kids.  Dance class and art class have been a wonderful way for us to form a community.  Neighbors have provided that for us as well.  But, the hardest part of being a stay-at-home mom is that you can get isolated.  No one wins when you’re isolated.  Contact your local community college, parks and recreation, or any place in your area that can connect you with classes or a community.

7.)  FIGURE OUT A ROUTINE

There is a level of flexibility that we have by being stay-at-home moms that can work against us.  You wake up, don’t get dressed, and suddenly your stare at the clock and it’s mid-afternoon.  Doing that consistently will throw you and the kids off, so be sure to build in a flow or routine that happens every single day while your home – especially if you have little ones in the house who thrive on routines.
Perhaps most importantly, remember that you matter.
Remember your passions outside of your kids.  Remember what got you excited before you had kids.  Remember to nurture all parts of yourself so that you truly can ROCK at being a healthy, happy mom!
Join the community on our Facebook page and tell us how you are rocking it as a stay at home mom :)

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Katie JoinerKatie Joiner is a happy-at-home Mom. She's got an almost 4 year-old and "oh-so close" to 1 year-old. When she's not busy saving her cats from the kids and trying to figure out what's for dinner, she can be found admiring, dreaming, and playing the day away with her family. Come over and say hi on her FB page@Happilyevermom, or Google +.






Thursday, August 28, 2014

Currently {Link Up}

You know the scoop.  
Check out the founders of the Link up at Harvesting Kale


I am currently needing to find some mojo. Some self care, some inspiration.  Do you ever see people around you that seem so inspired by life, or doing things with their life that seem important? I see myself as, (I read this some where)  "lead butt wiper".  That's me. That is what I do.  I could class it up a bit to "Champion Butt Wiper", or Supreme B.W."  But lets be clear.  It is what it is.   Now if you read this blog you must know I am a bit self deprecating.  In the fun way of course.   And I do realize the huge importance that butt wiping offers.  I mean who wants an itchy, smelly bum?  But I guess lately I sort of, well want a comma after LBW.  You know, like philanthropist, artist or LEADER. heh. You feel me?

Child rearing is important.  I get that.  And I know that no job I will do will be greater.  I am not trying to minimize the greatness of us mamas.  But alone at night, while I scroll Pinterest, I have the want for little more.  
Who knows what that will entail. But the fire is lit.  Ok so maybe not completely lit.  But there is definitely smoke.  Small puffs of smoke.

Wow, that was a rant.  Geesh.  So I am missing-clearly my sanity. lol.  But seriously, I am missing my hubby.  He is back in California and has been there for 12 days.  Too long.  Being a single mom is not joke.  Max totally misses him too.  Family is best reunited.

I am reading Letters to my Daughter. By Maya Angelou.  Very good.  Short stories.  Poignant and thought provoking.  And I like that the stories are small.  I can read a few a night and be done.  

I am hoping that I find a little clarity.  I feel I have been doing a little soul searching.  Wondering if people change or do I?  Do I wait for something to happen, or do I make it happen.  Max I think is hoping for more toys. Race cars in particular.

I have been playing a LOT in Max's room.  After he turned three he has shifted a bit.  He cries when I leave him at school or with a sitter.  He always wants me at his heels to see what he is doing or watching.  My little independent monster now needs his mama more.  Not sure why, but I hear it is pretty common for little boys.  I've been playing with my camera more, and even took a small one on one class.  Was very cool.





Little Gym

Mama Fail.  Yes the ice cream is in the fridge. Oops.


Monday, August 25, 2014

Babies babies babies...

Sweet Audrey had her debut this weekend.  A special party was thrown for her and her mama.  A Sip and See.  Have you heard of that before?  I hadn't, but what a fantastic idea.  So instead of a baby shower some more prefer a Sip and See. Where cocktails can be consumed and the baby can be fawned over.  I think this is more common with a second baby, but I can see a lot of first time mamas opting for this too.

Us ladies laughed, had wonderful Prosecco and tasty treats.  The weather was fantastic and all was well in the world.

With all these lovely babies and bellies around me, some have asked if it has been hard for me.  And I can say thankfully it hasn't been too bad.  The hubby and I have been trying with all our might ;) to have another baby (9 months now) and it just hasn't happened.  But I haven't lost faith, and actually seeing these mamas and babies just strengthens it.  Since it hasn't been a year yet of trying some have said not to worry.  Easier said then done.  9 months feels like forever.  I have started going to acupuncture-you know to help, somehow.  But with every cycle that comes I am a little defeated.  But to combat that defeat, I stuff my face with delicious white carbs and sugar.  Silver lining right.

But I can't be more thrilled for my ladies who have all this joy in their life.  Motherhood is so wonderful and should always be celebrated with a wonderful party!

Yes I used this at another shower, don't judge lol 






big kids made an appearance later in the party, just in
time for dessert!